Seven weeks ago, Marissa's school life was turned upside down. Marissa's trusted companion, Sarah, (aide) had her baby a month early. It was clearly unexpected and Marissa was not prepared. The school had done some work and had hired a new aide for Marissa during Sarah's absence. For the past seven weeks, Marissa has hit, laid in the floor, had to be picked up early, lost recess, several time outs, and extreme melt downs. Marissa lets say, hates change. She just can't cope with a world that is not organized or unpredictable. She also needs someone with a sense of humor to help her divert from her bad behavior. In the midst of all this, she also has had some medical issues that we have had to deal with as well as turning seven. (Side note: For those of you who have seen me recently, know I have cut all my hair off- this is why. It was either cut it or pull it out, I chose to cut it). She has been short tempered, hard to soothe and impulsive. We have tried every type of reward and consequence imaginable, but no luck. She just continued in her pattern of bad behavior.
So yesterday, was "D Day", Ms. Sarah returns. I wasn't sure if I should have gotten to school early to lay out the red carpet, hire a band and gets lots of balloons. We've been counting down this day since, February 10, and yes, you guessed it Marissa had a great day- NO HITTING. In case you missed it, NO HITTING. The first day is 7 weeks. A wonderful, glorious day! Today, was a repeat- NO HITTING. I pray that she will continue to be on this upside in her behavior.
Often times when I write this blog, its about the struggles and challenges of raising a special needs child. We still have those, but I love it when we just have moments of being normal. When she blends in with her peers or we are out in public and she acts like or better then every other child, its times like those I cherish. We don't have many of them but when we do, I want to celebrate, that is why I am sharing this with you. It takes a lot of energy for her to do so good and she has to suppress a lot of her sensory issues to maintain some sense of herself. Every day I become more amazed at her strength and resilience. She is still simply a miracle.